My workday ended on a stressful note, and as much as I wanted to scream or shout in frustration at times, I didn't. I never do. I've kinda been raised not to do that sort of thing. On the one hand, it can come across as being rather cool, calm, and collected, which can seem advantageous in many situations. But really, it's just rather effective conditioning. I can hear the voice in my head berating me for even thinking of lashing out.
When one does vent their frustrations, be it by shouting, kicking something, or just being violent somehow, the question I ask myself is, "What good does that do?" The other conditioned question is "who are you putting on a show for?" That second one is the kicker because it was either a grandparent or a parent who would ask that question. That'll put you in your place in no time flat. Don't show you're upset because it just drags other people down, or something. We all have our burdens to bear, so we're not unique or special because of our struggles.
Sounds rather grim, I know.
So, from a productive perspective, quashing those emotional outbursts does allow you more headspace to focus on solving the problem or finding some way to move forward. Who has time for silly emotions, right? Get the job done. Solve the problem. Win. All that jazz. Some shouting may help you feel a little better for a moment or two, but after the problems will remain and you'll still need to deal with them eventually.
Today ended on a stressful note, and I buried those feelings and focused on resolving things so tomorrow wouldn't be worse. I'd like to think it worked, for the most part. Tomorrow will be better.
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