For those who came in late, today is our 15th anniversary together as a couple. Hence the fancy lunch yesterday and other activities.
Last night was the O Bar Musicals event night and it was even more awesome than we had anticipated. The O Divas, O Boys, and O2Men always put up a good show, but last night was just AMAZING. It's one thing to try to recreate a number or two from a famous show for a regular night, but to have the whole show consist of a variety of musical numbers of varying levels of complexity takes a tremendous amount of work. This just reinforces why we celebrate them so much - the very least we can do is recognize and acknowledge their efforts and continue to cheer them on.
Beyond that, we tried to sleep in a bit to shake off the worst of the alcohol. We still had a Pendragon RPG session in the afternoon then went for a quick walk after to grab dinner in the area.
As this day draws to a close, I figure I'll try my hand at making some sort of a list of things tied to this anniversary and what comes next. Tobie and I have been having some pretty serious conversations in recent months. Here are snippets from those talks and other things I've been thinking about in no particular order.
01 - The move to Parañaque next year is really going to happen and we just need to figure out the logistics. It's kinda scary, but it still feels like the right thing to do with respect to our families. It's a pretty big change, but we'll make things work one way or another.
02 - 15 years in, we're still not married and there's no legal framework in place for anything like that in the Philippines. We have no plans to migrate to a country that supports marriage equality, so we should probably address that from a legal standpoint soon. Special Power of Attorney for things and joint bank accounts aren't exactly the same as being legally married, but it's better than nothing.
03 - That said, the idea of having some sort of a commitment ceremony with friends might be rather cool. It'll be quite costly, especially if the guest count gets too crazy as there are a lot of people we'd probably want at something like this. Maybe we could just have some sort of a ceremony and celebration at O Bar.
04 - Once we move south though, the possibility of having a dog again becomes a reality. We're not going to rush into anything right away, but the thought lingers. Our time with Yoshi was definitely special, and I wouldn't mind doing that again.
05 - As if it weren't obvious enough, O Bar remains to be a very important part of our lives together and we'll continue to patronize the bar even with the move. This is also one of the factors we don't want to leave the country despite everything else being terrible.
06 - After the recent excursion to CueCorner, we've talked about making a bit more of an effort to try to hang out with the O performers more outside the bar. It's not easy since their rest days are our workdays unless we file leave or take advantage of a holiday here and there. But it would be really nice to bond with them more because they really are special people that we hold near and dear to our hearts.
07 - What we've typically referred to as our wavelength connection is as strong as ever - or maybe even stronger. As I mentioned in my Baduy Pride post, it's a little scary how in sync we are and how we can almost read each other's thoughts. Sure, such familiarity can be a normal consequence of spending 15 years of our lives in each other's company. But really, it feels almost like a weird superpower. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
08 - With the move to the south and other possible plans, Tobie keeps pointing out that I should probably learn how to drive. It'll help to make me more mobile plus it opens up other options during emergencies and such. I should probably learn...or maybe just hire a driver? Hopefully a cute one. LOL
09 - Tobie continues to encourage me to write and I keep dragging my feet about it. He's not doing anything wrong - it's part of why he's such an amazing partner. I just wish I knew where to even begin acting on his support.
10 - In return, I continue to support him with his efforts to finish Diliman Generation Now. At least he got the preview book out - now he just needs to keep pushing until he gets to the end of his planned arc for the story. I'm so proud of what he has created thus far and I know the final result is going to be amazing.
11 - We're definitely feeling older these days, thus a lot of the longer-term thinking and sometimes grim topics for conversation. One thing on my mind is what my longer-term work life would be like. I have the family business now, but things could change in the coming years. I'd want to keep working in one way or another, but I'd also like to work on things tied to our passions.
12 - A lot of times, we end up talking about missing friends that we don't get to see as much as we used to. The pandemic really changed a lot of things for everyone and things continue to change. Everyone has their priorities and their struggles and we totally get that. But we also feel our circle of friends that we're most in contact with shrinking bit by bit over the years. It's an inevitability of aging and the passing of time. But it's still sad.
13 - We are working on some interesting trips to places like South Korea and Japan. Whether we do this on our own or with family and friends, we definitely want to make the effort to see new places and experience new things. But we'd still try to time things to avoid hitting major O Bar event nights. LOL
14 - This relationship is now more than twice as long as my last one and I count myself lucky each and every day that Tobie continues to play such an important role in my life. We first got together because we felt this amazingly power connection between us and we knew that we needed to see where it would lead. And that love has only grown strong over time.
15 - Whatever comes next for us in the next 15, 20, 30 years, I know that Tobie and I will face it together. I'll always feel like we're capable of some pretty amazing things together and that helps us face just about anything that comes our way. I can't wait for whatever will come next for us.
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