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Metro Manila Community Quarantine - Day 211

I'm not depressed or anything. But I am a little sad this weekend. Just one of those weird bumps along the road as we remain mostly locked up in our homes. 

Given our long call with Turing on Thursday night, our long call with O Bar friends on Friday night, and our delightful Labyrinth RPG session on Saturday night, we've actually had a pretty social weekend. Sure, it was mostly a virtual one, but that didn't take away from the experience. It wasn't quite the same as sharing a table whether for drinks or for board games, but it's a close enough substitute considering the prevailing circumstances of the ongoing quarantine.

I've been thinking a lot about our friends. Naturally, I miss them a lot and the irony that these recent online social interactions just stress the fact that I miss them even more. But just thinking about that isn't enough, of course. And we really should try to schedule more of these sorts of online calls to stay better connected. We've been in lockdown for nearly 7 months now and we really should have embraced this sort of thing sooner, I guess. It still feels weird and I think we're going to continue to arrange for such things with a particular purpose in mind like an online game session or the upcoming House Party Queens II Zoom even that O Bar has put together. 

Early this morning, I wrote a lengthy Baduy Pride post about our Anak, Nico, and the whole Pamilya Egg relationship we maintain. It was some really mushy, emotional writing but it felt good to set to words. This period of the pandemic has become a reason to really think about what matters most to us and reconsider how we've been maintaining our friendships. As much as I feel like Tobie and I have generally been good friends to those in our circles, but maybe we could do more still.

Or maybe this is more about putting more value into the little things like video calls, shared conversations, and all the physical intimacies we're currently denied. There has to be more that we can do in the interim and definitely change in our behavior and practices once it's safe enough to see one another in person again. I know we've all said this more than a few times over the past few months, but I'm sure that every hug after quarantine will feel all the more magical just because of how long we've been holding back and watching ourselves around one another in the hopes of slowing the spread of the disease.