Metro Manila Community Quarantine - Day 835
I'm pretty sure that the way we enjoy O Bar in a manner is different (but not necessarily unique) from many others. But we all enjoy things in different ways - it's a free world and all that. And I guess the type of friends we entertain at the bar also reflects this way of enjoying things such that we can be pretty careful about who to invite to join us when we go out.
Figured it might be kind of silly fun to document some of the main criteria for the sort of friends (or even acquaintances) we end up hanging out with regularly. I don't really know how to verbalize all our sort of "rules" in our head, but these are at least the big ones.
Can Handle Their Alcohol - As much as we're drinking together, it's never our goal to get crazy drunk. We drink to enjoy but we don't pressure others to drink if they don't want to and we don't want to have to take care of drunk people at the table. We will aggressively offer friends water to help them from getting too drunk throughout the course of the night. And it still happens from time to time and we're still the sort of friends who will try to care for you when you've crossed beyond your limits. But it ends up killing a lot of the fun during the night, especially if it means missing the drag shows.
Willing to Help Manage the Table - Having a table at O can be a bit of an indulgence still, and it's important to recognize that. This means things like keeping tabs on other friends at the table, watching other friends' personal belongings when they need to go to the bathroom, and guarding against other people thinking they can just share the table without asking. And really that last one happens a LOT - just one person resting his beer can quickly snowball into all his friends swarming. We're all in this together, and all that.
Can Appreciate the Show - We typically invite people who have expressed an interest in watching the O Divas perform versus people who just want to drink or something. The drag queens are the big focus of the O Bar experience and I personally hate it when people think they need to give running commentary during the show - what more disparaging commentary. I know, I can treat O Bar almost like theater - so when someone is performing on stage, don't talk to me. We can share quick comments between numbers but the show is the show and the girls put a lot of effort into making each and every night special. The only thing worse is when people talk during the show and their topic of conversation isn't even related to what's going on right in front of them. Yeah, we never invite those sorts of people to share the table with us.
Basically, People Who Behave as Adults - I think we're too old for too many shenanigans, even bar shenanigans. We don't need people who disappear on us and don't tell us that they're not coming back to the table. We don't need the stress of guys who don't pay their fair share for whatever reason. And definitely not those who don't notify us if they're going to be late or need to cancel or don't tell us that they got home safely. It would be a lot easier if we didn't care what happened to people before and after sharing an O Bar table, but we do.