I'm not very sociable.
I can carry a conversation when needed - whether on the dance floor of O Bar or in a client meeting at work. But I don't necessarily initiate conversations with strangers. It's not something that I'm every going to be fully comfortable with - something that acts as the clearest reminder that I'm more of an introvert than people think I am.
And thus in a similar fashion, there's a fairly wide net of people most might consider to be "friends" when in fact I only see them as acquaintances. These are the people that I talk to when I bump into them but I don't necessarily reach out to whether in person or on social media. The term "friend" is a very strong one for me, one that borders on what most may define to be "family" in terms of its importance. And that may be because of my independent life as a gay man and the need to redefine a lot of my social constructs in line with how various events have shaped my life.
As I've said many times before, I do my best to treat my friends well - or perhaps even a little better than that. I invest a lot in my friends and I try my best to always be there for them when they need help or support. I put myself out there for my friends when it's truly needed. It's the least that we can do really - and yet it's something that not everyone does.
And I don't think I expect too much of my friends. All I hope for is a little conversation every now and then - even just the occasional Facebook comment or like. I appreciate a decent amount of openness and honesty when we talk about important matters. If you need help, then don't be afraid to ask. After all, the worst that I can do is say no. But it helps to ask - since I in turn will be just as direct when needed. That you can always count on.
Beyond that, it's really up to you. If you want to hang out some time, that's even better. If you just want to have coffee or play with our dog Yoshi, that works too. But the important thing is to keep the lines of communication open - and that'll always be a two-way street. I'll be there for you and I hope that you'll be there for me.
Is that too much to ask?
I can carry a conversation when needed - whether on the dance floor of O Bar or in a client meeting at work. But I don't necessarily initiate conversations with strangers. It's not something that I'm every going to be fully comfortable with - something that acts as the clearest reminder that I'm more of an introvert than people think I am.
And thus in a similar fashion, there's a fairly wide net of people most might consider to be "friends" when in fact I only see them as acquaintances. These are the people that I talk to when I bump into them but I don't necessarily reach out to whether in person or on social media. The term "friend" is a very strong one for me, one that borders on what most may define to be "family" in terms of its importance. And that may be because of my independent life as a gay man and the need to redefine a lot of my social constructs in line with how various events have shaped my life.
As I've said many times before, I do my best to treat my friends well - or perhaps even a little better than that. I invest a lot in my friends and I try my best to always be there for them when they need help or support. I put myself out there for my friends when it's truly needed. It's the least that we can do really - and yet it's something that not everyone does.
And I don't think I expect too much of my friends. All I hope for is a little conversation every now and then - even just the occasional Facebook comment or like. I appreciate a decent amount of openness and honesty when we talk about important matters. If you need help, then don't be afraid to ask. After all, the worst that I can do is say no. But it helps to ask - since I in turn will be just as direct when needed. That you can always count on.
Beyond that, it's really up to you. If you want to hang out some time, that's even better. If you just want to have coffee or play with our dog Yoshi, that works too. But the important thing is to keep the lines of communication open - and that'll always be a two-way street. I'll be there for you and I hope that you'll be there for me.
Is that too much to ask?
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