0159F: Rest

Man, I slept a LOT this weekend. And even just getting 8 hours a day is long in itself - I concede the fact that I do rather push myself to my limits as I try to balance my work life with my geeky life with Tobie. Again no complaints - just a choice that I make in order to make the most of the time that I have with the man I love.

This reflects something that a former boss of mine used to say a lot - that we always have time for the things we want to do. What this means is that if it's something that we really want to do, then we'll move heaven in Earth in terms of our schedules to make it happen. In my case, it typically means foregoing sleep more often than not.

The flip side is for things that we don't want to do or don't feel particularly motivated to do, we tend to drag our feet or just let the cards fall as they may. It's a natural human response - motivation is a key factor when it comes to one's actions and deeds. And while I've never claimed to be big on motivation, especially with non-negotiables like work, I can still see the truth in this statement.

I try to live my life as honestly as possible, and I appreciate similar candor in return. Thus if you want something, you ask for it - I may or may not give it. If you don't want me to do something, then tell me at least so that we can talk about it and we can come to an understanding, even if not necessarily an agreement. Don't be disappointed that I didn't do something that you did not ask me for. You can't hold people accountable for what you hoped for alone since everyone has lives and we need to live them. You can't feel bad that things didn't work out when you never took that first step to speak your mind, ask for what you want and make your intentions clearly known.

Give people reasons to want to do the things that you want. You get further with the carrot than with the stick. Plus we're all too old for these silly little games.